李明慧早前在YouTube频道“够姜子游学园 |吕校长 X 猫猫校监I”受访时，公开指控陈燿阳，其中提及“湿底裤”细节引起外界关注。陈燿阳随后透过律师发出严正声明反击，首度公开回应有关指控。

陈燿阳在声明中表示，前妻所指的“湿底裤”说法完全脱离事实脉络，并特别指出两人的儿子属特殊教育需要SEN儿童。他直斥前妻为了博取舆论关注，公开涉及患有SEN儿子的个人生理细节与生活隐私，行为极不恰当，甚至对儿子的心理与成长造成伤害，严厉谴责前妻的做法“严重侵犯儿童私隐”。

女儿Ava打破沉默　透过《香港01》独家发声明力撑母亲

陈燿阳与李明慧的女儿Ava今日透过《香港01》公开发表独家个人声明，对父亲陈燿阳之前的声明内容提出反驳。Ava 在声明开首表明，自己绝非无关痛痒的“旁观者”，而是从小在那个家中长大的亲历者。她直言对于父亲于9月24日发表的公开声明感到极度不安，因为当中的描述根本无法反映她真实经历过的家庭生活，又指哥哥患有严重自闭症，保障他的安全是她与母亲最重要的事情，强调她们“不会停止为那些无法为自己发声的人发声”。她亦痛心透露，随着自己长大，亲眼目睹父亲的愤怒情绪逐步升温，甚至影响到家庭成员、医疗及教育专业人士。面对父亲不断攻击母亲，Ava 直接向陈燿阳公开喊话：“请停止！不要再攻击母亲”。

Ava声明如下：

On 24 September, my father issued a public statement to the Hong Kong media about our family. I was deeply disturbed by a number of the claims and characterizations he made because they do not reflect the family life that I personally experienced.

I was initially hesitant to make a public statement. I did not want to add heat to what some may dismiss as a private family dispute, or reduce something deeply painful to “he said, she said” drama. But I believe this is larger than a disagreement between two people. It reflects broader systemic issues in the way women’s experiences of abuse are questioned,minimized, or turned against them. I understand that my words carry weight, and I feel a responsibility to speak, not only for myself and my mother, but for those who cannot safely speak for themselves.

I am not speaking as an outsider. I am his daughter. I grew up in that home. I witnessed what happened behind closed doors.

I have memories with my father that I cherish, and that makes what I am saying even more painful. But as I grew older, I also witnessed his anger increasingly affect our household, his own family, and schools and medical professionals. My mother, my brother, and I endured a fragile home. A place of safety, only to be undermined. A place where we walked on eggshells, plagued by hours of verbal and psychological abuse. Words that cut deep: wishing not for my success but my failure, threats to "cut me into little pieces" in front of my friends, that I was neither loved nor cared for. More than just words, they were cuts on not just my safety but my worth, leaving scars that only time can heal. I saw the emotional consequences that these behaviours had on my mother and on our family.

Over the years, my mother has done everything she possibly can to protect my father's image by remaining silent and keeping us safe by not disclosing the truth of his behaviors,addictions and actions. That silence was never an admission of fault, nor an invitation for responsibility for the breakdown of our family to be publicly placed upon her. I will not remain silent while that happens. My father has accused my mother of wrongdoing and has now taken those accusations into the public arena. I am asking him directly: please stop.

Stop blaming my mother for speaking about what she experienced. Stop portraying our family’s pain as though it arose without cause. Stop attacking the credibility of the woman who lived through these events with you.

This is bigger than my parents’ divorce.

I will not deny that men can suffer abuse, false accusations, and real harm at the hands of their partners, and their experiences deserve to be taken seriously. But that reality should not be invoked where it is irrelevant, used to divert attention from the truth of the matter or to discredit a victim’s account of their own experience. It is deeply troubling when the language of victimhood is used to reverse the roles of those who have been harmed and those accused of causing harm; when it is used not to protect the vulnerable, but to cast doubt on women who speak. It turns pain into a weapon and silence into the price of being believed.Women should not be forced into silence because their truth may unsettle someone else's reputation. Truth is not cruelty simply because it disrupts the version of events another person needs the world to believe.

When the criminal-justice system perpetuates the lamenting truth that a woman may speak of abuse and still not be heard in a way that brings justice; when the legal system fails to enforce accountability, leaving her vulnerable to financial abuse through the very process meant to protect them; and when social-welfare services fail to provide protection that is meaningful, timely, and real, where else is she meant to turn? When every system designed to listen becomes another place where a person is left unheard, public testimony is not a choice made lightly, nor is it a performance for attention. It is what remains when private suffering has exhausted every private avenue for protection, accountability, and truth.

My mother does not lose her right to speak because she is going through a divorce. And I do not lose my right to speak because I am their daughter.

A normal father’s love for his children should extend beyond words or appearances. It should mean placing his children and their needs first; being forgiving rather than vengeful; and choosing humility and accountability over pride. It should not require silence, loyalty, or compliance in exchange for care. Nor should it turn every interaction into another attempt to be right, rather than an opportunity to bring peace to the people most affected.It has been nearly two years, and I have still not been allowed back into the matrimonial home to retrieve my belongings, things that may appear ordinary, but carry the memories of a life I once thought I would be allowed to return to. They are remnants of my room, my childhood, and a home that has since become inaccessible to me.

If the protection of my brother and me were truly the priority, there would be no defence of the idea that Jordan’s personal boundaries should be crossed or disregarded. There is a profound difference between protecting one’s children and protecting one’s pride: one asks what the child needs to heal; the other asks what must be preserved at any cost.

I know what I witnessed. I know what I experienced. I know what it felt like to live inside our family. And asking a woman to remain silent about what happened to her does not make what happened disappear.

The safety and protection of my brother who is profoundly autistic is a priority for my mother and I. We won’t stop advocating for those without a voice

9月24日，我的父亲就我们家庭的事情向香港传媒发表了一份公开声明。对于他在声明中提出的若干说法以及对事情的描述，我感到非常不安，因为这些说法并不反映我亲身经历过的家庭生活。

起初，我对于是否公开发声十分犹豫。我不希望令一场可能被某些人视为“家庭私事”的争议进一步升温，更不希望把一些如此深刻而痛苦的经历，简化成一场“各执一词”的闹剧。但我相信，这件事所涉及的，远远不只是两个人之间的争执。它反映的是一个更广泛、更具制度性的问题：当女性诉说自己受到伤害的经历时，她们的说法如何被质疑、淡化，甚至反过来成为攻击她们的工具。我明白自己所说的每一句话都有分量。因此，我认为自己有责任站出来发声，不只是为了我自己和我的母亲，也是为了那些无法安全地为自己发声的人。

我并不是一个旁观者。我是他的女儿。我在那个家中长大。我亲眼见证了关起门后所发生的事情。我与父亲之间也有一些我珍惜的回忆，而正因如此，我今天所说的这些话才更加痛苦。但随着我逐渐长大，我亦亲眼看到他的愤怒如何越来越影响我们的家庭、他自己的家人，以及学校和医疗专业人士。我的母亲、哥哥和我，一直生活在一个脆弱不安的家庭环境之中。一个原本应该让人感到安全的地方，安全感却一次又一次被破坏。我们在家中如履薄冰，长时间承受言语及心理上的伤害。有些说话，伤得很深。他不是希望我成功，而是希望我失败；他曾经在我的朋友面前威胁要把我“斩成一小块一小块”；亦曾让我感受到自己既不被爱，也不被关心。这些并不只是说话。它们伤害的不只是我的安全感，也伤害了我的自我价值，留下的伤痕，只能交由时间慢慢疗愈。我亦亲眼看见这些行为对我的母亲以及整个家庭所造成的情绪伤害。

这些年来，我的母亲一直选择沉默，尽她所能保护我父亲的形象，同时亦为了保护我们，没有公开他行为、成瘾问题及所作所为的真相。但她的沉默从来不代表她承认自己有错，更不代表任何人可以把我们家庭破裂的责任公开推到她身上。当这样的事情正在发生时，我不会再保持沉默。我的父亲一直指责我的母亲做错了事，而如今，他更把这些指控带到公众面前。所以，我想直接对他说，请停止。

请不要再因为我的母亲说出自己的亲身经历而责怪她。请不要把我们家庭所承受的痛苦，描述成仿佛一切都是无缘无故发生的。请不要再攻击一个与你共同经历这一切的女人的可信性。

这件事，比我父母的离婚更重要。

我不会否认，男性同样可能遭受虐待、虚假指控，以及来自伴侣的真正伤害，而他们的经历亦应该得到认真对待。但这个事实不应在与事件无关的情况下被利用，更不应被用来转移大家对事情真相的注意，或者用来否定一名受害者对自己亲身经历的陈述。当“受害者”的语言被用来颠倒受到伤害的人与被指造成伤害的人之间的角色，这是令人深感不安的。尤其当这种语言不是用来保护弱势的人，而是用来质疑那些选择站出来发声的女性。这样做，是把痛苦变成武器，把沉默变成一个人要获得相信所必须付出的代价。女性不应该因为她所说的真相可能动摇另一个人的声誉，就被迫保持沉默。真相不会仅仅因为它打破了另一个人希望全世界相信的版本，就变成残忍。

当刑事司法制度一次又一次印证一个令人痛心的现实：一名女性即使站出来诉说自己遭受伤害的经历，仍然可能无法以真正带来公义的方式被听见；

当法律制度未能真正追究责任，反而令她在本应保护她的程序当中，继续面对经济上的伤害；当社会福利制度亦未能提供真正、及时而有效的保障；那么，她还可以向谁求助？当每一个原本应该聆听她的制度，最终都变成另一个让她的声音无法被听见的地方，那么公开说出自己的经历，并不是一个轻率的选择，更不是为了博取关注而作出的表演。当一个人在私下已经用尽所有寻求保护、追究责任和寻找真相的途径后，公开发声，可能就是她最后剩下的选择。

我的母亲不会因为正在经历离婚，就失去发声的权利。而我亦不会因为我是他们的女儿，就失去发声的权利。

一个正常的父亲对子女的爱，不应该只停留在说话或表面形象上。真正的爱，应该是把子女以及他们的需要放在第一位；应该选择宽恕，而不是报复；应该选择谦卑和承担责任，而不是骄傲。父爱不应该要求子女以沉默、忠诚或服从，作为换取关爱的条件。每一次的相处，也不应该变成另一场证明自己才是对的争论，而应该成为一个机会，为那些受到最大影响的人带来平静。接近两年了，我至今仍然不被允许返回我们昔日成长住所取回自己的物品。这些东西在别人眼中可能只是一些普通的物件，但对我而言，它们承载着一段我曾经以为自己还能回去的生活和回忆。它们是我房间留下来的痕迹，是我童年的一部分，也是那个如今我已经无法再进入的家的遗留。

如果保护我和哥哥真的才是最重要的事情，那么就不应该有人为侵犯或漠视 Jordan 个人身体界线的做法作出辩护。保护自己的孩子，与保护自己的自尊和面子，两者之间有着根本的分别。前者问的是：“我的孩子需要甚么，才能疗愈？”后者问的却是：“无论付出甚么代价，我必须保住甚么？”

我知道我亲眼看见了甚么。我知道我亲身经历了甚么。我知道生活在我们这个家庭里，是一种怎样的感受。要求一个女人对自己曾经遭遇的事情保持沉默，并不会令那些事情从未发生过。

我哥哥患有严重自闭症。保障他的安全和受到适当的保护，是我和母亲最重要的事情之一。我们不会停止为那些无法为自己发声的人发声。